The other day at work, some of the clients and staff were looking up music videos of a recently deceased pop star (you get a cookie if you can guess which one!). In the crowded room, I found a place to stand next to my friend, who is in a family way and enjoys hugging and leaning on whoever’s closest. As we embraced each other, the ode to racial unity “Black or White” cued up on the computer screen. It bears mentioning at this point that I am, in fact, white and she is, in fact, black, and that it quickly became one of the single cheesiest moments of my entire life. I made a joke about it, which diffused the tension somewhat…but holy christ was that shit cheesy.